my gran is visiting from perth; sometimes i suspect she uses her poor hearing as a filter for sentences and words she doesn't feel like interacting with.

---

i think marriages often polarize the personalities of otherwise perfectly normal people. you agree to live together and love together and you bind the two of you into one unit and yet you are two and your differences come out in every conversation and every discussion and as the most significant other you can ever know, your talk feeds off and combats the other and your opinions and selfness become - at least in part - rejections of the other, individualisms, stubbornesses in the face of the unit of marriage. i see this in my parents, in other people; they are now more themselves than they were (more stubborn - more religious - more time concious - more vague) before marriage, before they ever encountered the other in such a significant and lasting engagement of forces.